3-10-2016 Forgiveness

UCE Addictions Ministry
Agenda March 10

Opening Words

May we be reminded here of our highest aspirations,
and inspired to bring our gifts of love and service to the altar of humanity.
May we know once again that we are not isolated beings but connected,
in mystery and miracle, to the universe, to this community and to each other.
                                                                                                                               Anonymous Hymnal 434


Welcome to the UCE Addictions Ministry Group. We are a group of people who have struggled with our own addictions and the addictions of others. We hope to struggle well together as we work towards finding sanity, peace, love, and healthy relationships in our lives. We will strive to spend our time together in a spirit of love embracing the inherent worth and dignity of all. We accept and respect the varied paths that our members will take to find sanity, peace, love, and healthy relationships. We covenant to be together in a safe, confidential environment where we can explore our paths and our stories.

Our Relational Covenant

• Embrace and practice deep listening
• We will strive to be respectful of our limited time and try to keep our comments focused on the issues that have brought us here.
• Experience the group in a non-judgmental frame of mind.
• Build trust within the group.
• Confidentiality about specifics shared or discussed is imperative for our success.
• We each take full responsibility for what we share or say, recognizing retractions are acceptable as well.
• Meetings will always start and end on time.


Check-in and Processing of Check-in

Discussion: Forgiveness

“We Will Not Regret The Past, Or Wish To Shut The Door On It.” [1]

Steps 8 and 9 help us cut, strand by strand, the painful emotions that bind us to our past. They give us a chance to remake our present by changing our response to the things we have done to others and others have done to us. Our past loses its power. We gain an increasing sense of personal power and emotional freedom. We don’t have to use our precious energy to bury or rationalize things we have done. We learn how to protect ourselves and have a better sense of how we shape our own lives. We let past mistakes teach us how to live in the present. We release our hidden hostility, resentment, jealousy and anger so we are not apt to pass them on.

Making amends teaches us humility, and we are surprised that it feels more comfortable to be humble than grandiose.

When we make amends and practice forgiving, our relationships with the people involved will change. Whether we express our amends with words or simply carry them out with actions, people will react to our new ways. Some people may not really care about us or our amends. Others may actually trust us again. Some may not even notice, and we needn’t point it out. Some will say, ’’Its about time” or be hostile and berate us. Still others will resent our amends and want us to go back to our old ways.

Whatever happens, the other persons reaction is no excuse to change our amend. No matter what the response of others, we are responsible for what we do. We choose to amend our past and be willing to forgive.

List all people we have harmed, including ourselves, and be willing to make amends to them all. Be willing to forgive those who have harmed us.

Whenever possible, we will carry out unconditional amends to those we have hurt, including ourselves, except when to do so would cause harm.

Today I will practice an amend. I will also practice forgiving someone who has hurt me.
[1] AA Big Book, page 83.

http://aaagnostica.org/2014/09/24/steps-8 and-9/

Closing Words

Go your ways, knowing not the answers to all things,
yet seeking always the answer to one more thing than you know.
                                                                                      John W. Brigham Hymnal 687

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